When you’re small.
You gotta fix what ya can.
Beasts of a Southern Wild
When you’re small.
You gotta fix what ya can.
so last night got drunk with some coworkers, but I was the only drunk one.
So…it was a bit of a show. Not bad though! Okay going on.
One of my coworkers is an attractive dude, hes told me about his hardships when it comes to dating and I kinda let slip my insecurities cause thats what happens you chug shit…
and I complained about how I feel like white chics are seen as more attractive to most men and that kinda shit pisses me off (I know, why take it to race, but shit after being on okcupid and going to countless bars and noticing the lack of attention but the most attention given elsewhere to specific people….hey drunk or not i peep that shit) and leave me to be that piece of ass someone can pick up at a bar.
I didn’t mind it before cause I wanted to get laid- BUT NOW I’d actually like to date, meet folk hang out. So that piece of ass isn’t my game.
I admitted to him that I felt like my brown ass automatically don’t get no kinda play cause I apparently I just give off the aura of being easy.
where this comes from? Dunno. The last date I went on however was with a nice brown dude so…hope?
Here’s the flip around, my coworker, earlier that night, tried to hook up me with this dude…and I got mad. I don’t have a type but I know what I don’t like. And this dude was okay but I already new I’d friend his ass. That hiccup in the brain didn’t go off, no attraction nothin.
Yeah I know picky right. This odd world of dating and such is very confusing…
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; for it becomes your destiny.
You gotta learn to take care of people smaller and sweeter than you are.
Laugh as much as you breath and love as long as you live.
Breathe and you dwell in the here and now, breath and you see impermanence is life
May we live like the lotus, at home in muddy water.
We have flown the air like birds and swum the sea like fishes, but have yet to learn the simple act of walking the earth like brothers
I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life’.
I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back.
I remember the first time I cried during a movie.
I was watching The Lion King, tears streamed down my face watching Muphasa fall into the pit of charging antelope.
When you grow up learning that tears are useless things that overcome us, because being Masculine means no crying, being a Strong person meant no tears.
I remember when I cried to a movie so many times that my nose got stuffed til death and I hadn’t felt so much overwhelm me.
It was when I went to see Beasts of a Southern Wild with a friend of mine.
Someone told me that when one stops becoming so self centered and all about yourself, your life, you, your dreams, your existence, and start paying attention to the world, to Being, and to Compassion that you are more susceptible to tears, to the flooding of feeling something for others.
You cry more because you understand.
We refuse to let ourselves cry sometimes because it makes us weak. Because we’re told to fight, work three times as hard, keep a straight head, fight for ourselves.
But we forget to fight for each other but most important: to cry for each other.
On role models
So often people talk about what terrible role models Rihanna and Nicki Minaj are, and what great role models Selena Gomez and Taylor Swift are. To which I have to say…really?
Taylor Swift writes most of her songs about men she’s dated. She is cunning and saavy, especially when it comes to manipulating the media, but she hides that in order to maintain her sweet, “all-American” image. Selena Gomez is most famous for her relationship with Justin Beiber.
Rihanna has long maintained that she does not want to be a role model. She is young and living her life, and she owns her mistakes. She is unapologetic about her success. Nicki Minaj, whether on Twitter or in interviews, constantly reminds girls to succeed in school. She has made it clear that she is first and foremost a businesswoman looking after her family. After being betrayed and raped by ex-boyfriends, she has remained single for the past ten years. She started writing rhymes and rapping as a means to cope with her life, and she was eventually discovered when she posted her music on MySpace. Her life story is one of resilience and perseverance despite the odds.
The problem isn’t that Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez are role models. The problem is that we don’t allow women to be complex. We don’t allow different women with different life stories to be considered role models because we fear that complexity. God forbid they define their lives in terms other than men.
So why can’t she encourage women/young people through her music instead of focusing on pointless vulgar raps that does not exist to empower, ie- her intentions to clearly promote empowerment and education.
Businesswoman playing into whats expected of her and not Defying it all? Still objectified and playing towards an image that only the media/”norm” expects?
Also a female role model, in my eyes, is not someone who gets implants, bleaches or isn’t the original brown skin color she was and sticks to a “barbie” image. Encouragement goes a longg way.
what do you think?
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
… Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
… Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
… Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
… Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
… Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
… Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
… Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
… Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
When we contemplate the duration of the universe, we see it limited to the present moment, which is nothing more but the point which separates two infinities of time. The past and the future are as meaningless as if they did not exist. Is anyone more misguided than the man who barters an eternal future for a moment which passes quicker than the blink of an eye?