the simple-ness of a black man I did not expect…but shoulda…

I dont believe I’ve ever had a male tell me I can’t talk about sex with him because I am a female.
That in itself is a physical-sexual differentiation that makes no sense in the well educated minds, such as myself, that have read asked and watched sex in its natural form and performance form.

It is as if a penis is so severely dominant that one cannot comprehend the greatness of what it feels like to come, from one orphus, from a few simple actions where opposed to the vagina, where as about 1,000 or more nerve endings are located are pricked poked and licked on experience so much more. Boy I guess we are so inadequate compared to plain ole penile ejaculation- so said the DC bred young Black Male clearly in his young twenties surprised at the bluntness and questionable nature I offered.
Because an ignorant mind must be pricked and prodded- in turn I am the arguable angry black woman, the educated asshole with anger, the negative not the Inquisitive, Curious, Poking creature I assume to be.
No to the common simple-ton, I am an angry black woman with too many come backs that a male is slightly offended by and too irritated and embarrassed to come up with a rebuttal…except with a very passive head down response of “Shut the Fuck Up.”
I suppose it should’ve been expected. There is no other response than that. “Shut the fuck up.”
It throws you off, out of nowhere the phrase appears and one is offended because your questions, ideas, pokings and proddings are shut down by their uncomfort.
No because me prodding sir is worse than you claiming that Lesbian sex is better that Gaymen sex. It is too weird in fact…simple shit.
Is it worse that the woman next to him who barely knows him carries a torch for him with no structured response nor defense for the friends against him…No.
Simple
Simple shit for simple things.
I’m here to fucking poke and prod it to death.
Deal with it.

Life of a Brown Person: watched Precious for the first time…

so, admittedly, the screenplay isn’t that great nor is the acting, the story line is really simple and music etcetc.

HOWEVER. as a movie that highlights what black woman face, in certain economic, educational, psychological circumstances I think it touches on things that Black Men do not acknowledge and those who know about “Black Struggle” from a commercialized standpoint do not see.

I always dislike how the Black Male Struggle is always something talked about, but the Black Female Struggle is ignored and shoved under the rug because “WE HAVE TO UPHOLD OUR BLACK MEN. ENCOURAGE THEM TO NOT BE INCARCERATED. TO MAKE IT TO COLLEGE.”

Though the movie is not as great-Monique had a moment when she goes, “He was makin love to me and touchin my daughter. I told him to stop but he told my fat ass to shutup so I shut my fat ass up and he touched her…I was mad that my man wanted my daughter not me.”

Sexual abuse is not commonly talked about…for what reason I don’t know but there should always be open forums about the treatment of women, and of course including us of color because our struggles seem to always be swept under the rug…

The four-part documentary, based on producer Steve Stoutes book, explores hip-hops history and impact.

Next week VH1 is set to air The Tanning of America: One Nation Under Hip Hop, a four-part documentary series based on Steve Stoute’s similarly titled book, The Tanning of America: How Hip-Hop Created a Culture That Rewrote the Rules of the New Economy. It was a fascinating read and remix of hip-hop’s history and impact, and I turned the last page wanting to know more about how the “tanning” effect—as Stoute describes it—is mapped to spaces outside the commercial industry. I’m hoping that’s where the TV version ofTanning ventures.

Here are four more reasons to set your DVR, starting Monday:

To find out what “tanning” is. African-American culture is ingrained in our nation’s identity. Ways of talking, styles of dress, intellectual perspectives and other “norms of cool” get tossed into a goody bag of tools that continue to shift music-industry standards and the socio-political landscape.

Tanning isn’t “selling out” or “assimilation.” In fact, it’s better understood as assimilation in reverse. To sell out is to promote inauthenticity in one’s identity in order to gain some sense of power, fame or money. To forget where ya came from, as my “mudear” would say. Here, I’m thinking of Vanilla Ice, who tried to boast about growing up in the hood as a way to identify with black rappers—but who was later called out for it and hung over a hotel balcony—in contrast with the rap community’s acceptance of other white rappers like the Beastie Boys and Eminem, who figured out how to be their authentic selves within the genre.

Tanning is a psychological shift—an energetic force, according to Stoute, that “went beyond musical boundaries and into the psyche of young America, blurring cultural and demographic lines so permanently that it laid the foundation for a transformation.”

Black History Month: a wretched 28-day miseducation of American children in public schools who arent told about all the bad things blacks are able to get away with today, and who are force-fed factually flawed (if not completely fictional) history about how bad slavery was. At least thats how Mychal Massie, a black conservative, views it. The columnist and pundit penned a piece for World Net Daily, published Monday, describing the evils of the month.

"Feb. 1 began the 28 day ‘ceremony to injustice’ that is nothing more than an aversion to modernity that encourages people to mire themselves in the past juxtaposed to embracing the present and the future," Massie, who is also the former chair of the Project 21 National Leadership Network of Black Conservatives, writes.

"Black History Month is used by the nefarious and the corrupt to divide, to evoke blame and guilt, and often for personal gain. Public school children will be immersed in a 28-day vat of a factually flawed and at times fictional history of how bad the blacks had it in America, and they will hear that whites are privileged and their ancestors had slaves, blah-blah-blah."

To prove his point, Massie claims that the things you truly won’t hear about are harmful transgressions of black people such as the “knockout game,” for which blacks aren’t “shot on sight.” This surely proves that America is more tolerant, he states, but that won’t be talked about in the classroom.

"They won’t be talking about the fact that blacks aren’t shot on sight in areas where ‘Knockout’ is taking place. For those unfamiliar, the Knockout game is what black thugs play where they suddenly and unexpectedly punch unsuspecting white persons in the face for sport," he says. 

"The physical injuries and emotional trauma white victims suffer during these attacks are viewed as ‘minor,’ and in the majority of cases, the attacks don’t even make it on the evening news or into the newspapers … And it is paramount to note that these attacks are taking place across America—and it’s happening outside the ghetto. I’d say that shows America has advanced a long way because, according to the racialists flooding the classrooms and airwaves, blacks were barely suffered to walk on the same sidewalk with whites."

Massie also complains that while Trayvon Martin “will be lauded for sainthood … as an example of white injustice,” after George Zimmerman shot and killed him, white victims who were murdered at the hands of black offenders would go unnoticed for the month. 

"You won’t hear that the same black man in the White House, who was quick to stir the caldron of racial animus in the Martin situation, has refused numerous attempts by the families of these two British students, tourists who had wandered into the neighborhood where [Shawn] Tyson gunned them down in cold blood because they were white, to show them a modicum of compassion," Massie writes.

One thing Massie fails to mention was that Zimmerman was not initially charged in Trayvon’s death, and was only brought to court after huge national outcry. In the end he was also acquitted for the murder. Tyson, however, was sentenced to life in prison in 2011 for the murders of James Cooper and James Kouzaris.

Massie then—after slamming the president, Attorney General Eric Holder and the NAACP—calles for the end of Black History month, saying he is tired of the lies the month helps perpetuate.

"I’m tired of the lies—charlatans posing as eruditionists and parroting myths and distortions about what slavery was or wasn’t. Jim Crow is over, and the only overt segregation taking place today is perpetrated by black groups such as the Congressional Black Caucus, the Nation of Islam and the New Black Panthers," he says. "Slavery has become a crutch for blacks. It is the excuse used for retreating from modernity. Slavery happened; the United States had the good sense and decency to move beyond it. Now it’s time blacks got over it and moved forward."

"It’s time to send Black History Month to the ash heaps of history. It’s time to teach all children factual history, not just a manufactured history used to force guilt on white students and victim status on black students. It’s time we teach students that blacks do not own the market on past suffering and injustice. It’s time we teach that every population group who arrived here had extremely difficult times at first, but, unlike the majority of blacks, they rose above it," he adds.

Empire of Necessity: Historian Greg Grandin on Slavery, Freedom and Deception in the New World

http://www.democracynow.org - In his new book, “The Empire of Necessity: Slavery, Freedom and Deception in the New World,” acclaimed historian Greg Grandin examines how the transnational slave trade transformed the world, causing mass economic, social and political upheaval in ways that continue to reverberate today. Grandin tells the true story of a slave insurrection aboard a ship named the Tryal in 1805, in which West African men and women rose up and seized the vessel. The uprising inspired Herman Melville to write his novella “Benito Cereno” that drew on the memoirs of Captain Delano, a distant relative of President Franklin Delano Roosevelt. Today, Grandin has used the dramatic incident to show how slavery was the “flywheel” that drove the global development of everything from trade and insurance to technology, religion and medicine for nearly four centuries. A professor of Latin American history at New York University, Grandin’s last book “Fordlandia,” was a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize in history. 

Democracy Now!, is an independent global news hour that airs weekdays on 1,200+ TV and radio stations Monday through Friday. Watch our livestream 8-9am ET at http://www.democracynow.org.

I HAVE A VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION TO ASK:

How is it, that they can make a commercial about the word “Gay” BUT NOT the word “nigger/nigga” 

Which historically is a long term running offensive term that has been a problem between the colored and non-colored community.

Why is there no commercial for that word?

Through A Lens Darkly: How African Americans Use Photography to Shape Their Cultural Representation

http://www.democracynow.org - A new film explores how African American communities have used the medium of photography to shape how they are represented. “Through A Lens Darkly: Black Photographers and the Emergence of a People” is directed and produced by Thomas Allen Harris, who shares his own family’s history in the film. Allen Harris is also the creator of the related project, the Digital Diaspora Family Road Show. Both were inspired in part by the book, “Reflections in Black: A History of Black Photographers, 1840 to the Present” by Deborah Willis, who also produced the film. Allen Harris joins us from the Sundance Film Festival in Utah, where his movie is having its premiere.

Democracy Now!, is an independent global news hour that airs weekdays on 1,200+ TV and radio stations Monday through Friday. Watch our livestream 8-9am ET at http://www.democracynow.org.

Life of a Brown Person: yes I’m hangin with a white dude…why you lookin mad salty?

So when I hang with my white friends it generally has never come to my attention of it being a problem…then again a lot of times they’re white females.

One of my friends is a white and as of late I’ve noticed the change in which people pay attention to us chillin.

For example we were wandering in a museum and chillin, every security guard that happened to be of color took a notice, double taked.

This happened when we were chillin round some bars, and it’s increasingly beginning to annoy the shit out of me. 

I get it, interracial…wow that’s such a new thing. Yeah ya know cause it’s never happened before, shit most black folk don’t even consider me to be black soo….now it’s a thing? Now people have problems? 

Life of a Brown Person: beauty is a damn fight.

  • my hands are tiny and bony,
  • but when I put on my chori and rings they look like beauty, they look like a part of me.
  • I’ve got super irritating acne, so sometimes in the morning/night I stand in the mirror and pop um or poke um hoping they disappear one day.
  • But when I wear some shit, I stand in the mirror feelin on my booty goin “damn I loookk goooodddd”

  • when my hair was fluffy and to my back I’d spend half an hour on it trying to make it to things to the point where my hands would cramp up and shake.
  • but then I shaved it, cut it, and now some days I can just put it up and it’ll look good.
  • sometimes I’ll see images of make-up infused models, or real chics in life with nice lookin make up
  • but the minor eyeliner, eyeshadow, lipstick and henna makes me feel just as equivalent…when I feel like it.

  • I love boobies and I fall into the fantasy of “the bigger the booby the mo the betta” because of these hypersexualized milf-like images
  • but I’ll jiggle mine around and stick um in a crop top and they’ll look nice.
  • I was called chicken legs, pole, twig as a kid/high schooler
  • I look at my calves now and love how goddamn muscular they are.

We’re human. We have our moments where these images, the people we see, the jealousy of beauty affect our own-but then we have to remind ourselves that…those images are based off of someone elses standards, basis of beauty qualifications n fucknots.

I have my moments…and then I don’t. It’s good to admit um.

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